Why doesn’t he/she write back? The 5 most common reasons why someone unexpectedly cuts off contact with you

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Why he/she does not write back: Ghosting

All signs on heaven and earth say that he/she cared about you more than the average. He went to great lengths every day to show you how important you are to him, then disappeared without a word, melted away. Sound familiar? Probably everyone has either experienced a similar story firsthand, or it has affected someone in their circle of loved ones.

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Why he/she doesn’t write back: lack of time/ random situations

Of course, a lot depends on the stage of your relationship. It is very possible that (probably based on your poor past experiences) you are reacting emotionally and taking hasty steps. We are nowadays accustomed to having the other person almost “at our fingertips” (or rather, our phones). However, you shouldn’t expect that after a few meetings or days of acquaintance the other person will write us back in a flash. It’s also worth remembering that everyone leads a slightly different lifestyle, and we often have extremely different attitudes towards using instant messaging.

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Why he/she doesn’t write back: he/she is afraid to tell you the truth

You’re just not the type of person who probably doesn’t know how to tell you the truth. For some people, making sure that no one around them is sorry is important, so much so that they are unable to openly express what they are thinking. This is a vicious circle, of course, and this kind of behavior actually causes the other person far more suffering than playing open cards and having a painful but brief moment of honesty. However, breaking contact by not being able to tell the other person that you’re not interested in them is another extremely common occurrence.

Why he/she doesn’t write back: he/she leaves himself/herself a wicket to get back to you

As above — does he/she only get back to you when he/she is having a bad time and feeling lonely? Or maybe he/she writes back in a perfunctory and irregular way, sometimes showing great interest in you, other times ignoring you completely? Do you know that feeling when you can’t concentrate on anything around you because you’re thinking again and again about why he/she isn’t writing back? Chances are you’re dealing with an emotionally immature man who will periodically throw you into a total rollercoaster… if you let him or her. Our advice? Run away.

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Why doesn’t he/she write back: he/she just wants everything

There is a good chance that you are not the only woman in this person’s life. Perhaps a previous, unfinished relationship is involved. Or maybe just the “disappearing type” simply can’t keep up with writing you back regularly? After all, it’s not so fast when you lead several parallel lives. As above — try to approach the topic with common sense. If, apart from the regular lack of contact, your doubts are also aroused by other issues, you should trust your intuition (we do it far too rarely).



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