Should you return the ring after breaking off the engagement? This topic still stirs up a lot of controversy.

Photo by RODNAE Productions from Pexels

General rules

Several factors determine whether or not a woman should keep a ring after breaking off an engagement. This symbolic ring is usually treated as a gift from your loved one. So there is no formal obligation to return it when the relationship breaks down — do you give your ex-partner all the gifts you received during the relationship? Moreover, do we expect the same from the other party? Well, that’s exactly what we do. However, there are situations when returning the engagement ring is fully justified and it is simply not right not to do it. One such situation is when a woman breaks off the engagement and it is in good taste to return the ring to her partner. If your partner breaks off the engagement it is common to leave the jewelry behind (as the other party, not to put it romantically, did not fulfill our ‘agreement’).

Photo by Ron Lach from Pexels

We betrayed our partner

What happens when a relationship breaks down because of infidelity or a painful lie and the guilty party is… ourselves? Most often our (former) partner expects us to return the engagement ring. It is worth keeping in mind that if we protest, the other party may even refer to the law on donation and because of our gross ingratitude demand the jewelry back (this happens especially when the ring was very expensive). History knows of cases where such cases have even gone to court. Not to mention the really bad end to our engagement period and the distaste that (in an amplified version) the betrayed/hurt person will feel. Surely no one wants to experience additional stress in these already stressful circumstances…. right?

Photo by RODNAE Productions from Pexels

Betrayal of our chosen one

In the opposite situation, when our chosen one has committed a heinous act against us, many women decide to leave an engagement ring as a kind of “compensation” for the harm done to them. No, it’s not at all a matter of putting it on your finger every day and brooding over the whole depressing love story. Usually the ring ends up in a store window again and the money from the sale is used by the newly single woman to buy… something for herself. Do we think such a solution is right? It is hard to say. It is not easy at all to judge the decision of a person who has been hurt by his/her partner to such an extent that his/her life plans are completely changed. Certainly, for many women it can help them regain a sense of control and empowerment and, to some extent, help them get through those difficult first months after a break-up.

--

--

Get the Medium app

A button that says 'Download on the App Store', and if clicked it will lead you to the iOS App store
A button that says 'Get it on, Google Play', and if clicked it will lead you to the Google Play store
Glam Style

Glam Style

Every day you will find fresh articles focused on women. Follow us!