Getting engaged and what’s next? Despite appearances, this question is asked by many women, and the answer? It is not always so obvious.

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Getting engaged and then what? There are many possibilities

Not all of us take our pre-wedding preparations so seriously. There are, however, a lot of women who (from the very first days of engagement) start frantically looking for a wedding hall or a wedding dress, as well as setting a date and creating a detailed guest list. Some of us, on the other hand, prefer to simply leave the pre-wedding preparations to a wedding consultant (and it’s not a stupid idea at all, although usually quite expensive).

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Getting engaged and what’s next? Don’t let it get you down

That’s right: breathe in and out! Only calmness will save you. The engagement period should be associated with a wonderful moment in your life that you will remember until your very old age. You are flooded with questions about what to do next. Are you frustrated because you just…don’t know? You have every right to do so. One thing is for sure — it is not worth the pressure. The only person you should really talk to about it is your partner. Nosy aunts and uncles don’t need to know the details of your plans. His buddies or your friends — don’t either.

Getting engaged and what’s next? Important key questions

While we’re on the subject of talking to your sweetheart, this is undoubtedly a good time to bring up some important questions (if you haven’t talked about it before). Here’s a list of questions you should definitely ask yourself at this stage:

  • When do you plan to get married (and do you plan to get married at all)?
  • If you are getting married, then: church, civil, concordat?
  • IMPORTANT: are you planning to start a family? If yes, in what way do you want to raise your children?
  • Where are you planning to say magical “YES” to each other?
  • How do you see this day/ ceremony?
  • How do you share responsibilities in the subject of planning a wedding?
  • What about costs of the wedding — how do you plan to share them (and how will you share the expenses after the wedding)?
  • Less romantically, but just as importantly, what about your partner’s assets in the event that your relationship breaks down? Do you take precautions in this area?
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Getting engaged and what’s next? Baby steps

Once you and your partner have agreed on all of the above, start taking your plan one step at a time. Don’t take on too much. It is certainly wise to share the responsibilities. Enjoy this time without letting stress take over.



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